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Guest Post - The Busy Gamer


It’s 2018, the dawn of the technological era, the prime of the informational superhighway with the internet, and here I am, sitting with my son, spending an hour on how to teach someone who doesn’t understand how to round - to well, round. I go through in my head how I handle it, and set to explain it to him. He doesn’t get it. I get frustrated, he gets frustrated, we get angry. It’s bedtime. This is just a snapshot - a minuscule inkling of a much larger, busy, crazy filled day.  


My name is Josh, some of you may know me as “The Busy Gamer”. For those of you that don’t know, I am a divorced father of three beautiful children - Vincent, my oldest son, he’s 9, Marlena, my oldest daughter, she’s 7, and Celeste, my youngest daughter, she’s 5. As of this writing all three are now in grade school, and my days are wild roller coaster rides full of twists and turns, plus the occasional dead drop that leaves you feeling stunned. 


Before I go into my daily workings, I wanted to add that I do have a girlfriend, she is an amazing person, and she helps with a lot of these tasks at different points of the day. I do my best to shoulder as much as the burden as possible, to the point I want her to not feel obligated to help at all, but I wouldn’t be able to do this thing called “parenting” without her. For the sake of the blog post, I will lay out their entire schedule that I try to handle every day, with the caveat that she does in fact step in, and take them to school, wash their hair, or make dinner. So without further ado, here is a taste of the crazy life. 


Daily life is a struggle. It all starts with an alarm clock, generally to the tune of an annoying blaring noise that one cannot stand. This alarm goes off at 4:30am.  As I stated earlier, my kids are all grade-school, and school starts at 7:15am. So, you may ask, why the hell do I get up at 4:30am?  

I am a Store Manager for a popular grocery store chain on the East Coast, and my day there starts at 6:30am about 90% of the time. So, when that annoying noise kicks my butt out of bed, I crawl my half-dead self to the bathroom, proceed to do the normal routine of shower, shave, and well, you know the rest. I’m usually out and dressed by 5:15am, and ready to awaken my throng of demons. Enter the Matrix with me for a second: Somehow I manage to bend space, time, and all reality - I wake up and “motivate” all three children into getting dressed, do all their hair (and I have two girls - as a dad, this is a nightmare), brush teeth, load bookbag snacks, give vitamins/allergy medicine, and we’re out the door by 5:50am. Whew take a breath. 


Car rides to daycare (the next stop) consist of three things, either all together, or jumbled up, but most definitely always at least one: Imagine Dragons Albums, Coughing/Sneezing/Whining, and rambling about some subject one of my children deem necessary to educate me on - all while trying to navigate a road in pitch darkness. Arrival to daycare is usually around 6:00am, and I’m off to work. Their school bus will pick them up at 6:15am. 


I arrive at work, generally around 6:30am, unless I need to get gas or some other nefarious concoction (looking at you coffee). I then proceed to run a Grocery Store from 6:30am until 5:00pm (and let’s be real here, that’s a whole other blog post entirely, so I’m not going there.) 


Leaving work, I enjoy a nice sit in traffic, so arriving to day care can range anywhere from 5:30pm or 6:00pm, whatever the fates decide I deserve that day. Pick-up is akin to wrangling rogue pigs on the farm. Lots of squealing, running around, excitement, and the occasional waiting on a toilet run. Lock and load the kids up to the car, and off we go to the house. Once again, same principles from this morning apply, except everyone is more awake this time around. 


Prepare yourself, because if you thought my morning routine was the Matrix, you’re probably just going to think I make up my night-time routine like a horror story. Arrival generally goes like this: 6:00pm I walk in the door, I am bombarded by two dogs (did I forget to mention I have furbabies too?), who proceed to go outside and eliminate. Once I pass that threshold that I call my doorway, my multitask pants become adorned, and I take my Store Manager skills from work, and apply them to child management. From 6:00pm until 7:30pm, in absolutely no particular order: I cook dinner for everyone, perform the circus of three showers (two of which I have to personally get involved with hair washing), and lay out any homework that needs to be accomplished. On a typical night I have to: study for one or two tests for 2/3rds of the children, study spelling words for 2/3rds of the children, a math sheet for 2/3rds of the children, a reading sheet for one child, and a reading journal for one child. Ya you read that right, an absolute madhouse of homework (which I blogged about on my personal blog.) If the stars align, we’re winding down by 7/7:30pm. 


On a good night, I will have them in bed, and teeth brushed by 8:30pm, as I have a rule of thumb about trying to give them free time every day to use their tablets, PS4, or what have you. From 8:30pm, if I’m lucky and my children don't decide to fight their needs of sleep - I will take my lumbering husk of a body downstairs to blog, game, or hang out with my girlfriend. I will try to shower by around 11:00pm, crawl in bed, and repeat this insane cycle at that wonderful alarm clock noise. 


I’m an introvert, with a touch of anxiety. Being a dad to three kids is a handful, especially with a 45/50 hour a week career, a blog, girlfriend, and passion for gaming. Gaming is my zen, and it’s the only way I can take a step out of the stressful reality I am working with. Blogging has just been amazing though. Through blogging I have been able to connect with so many people, make dialogues with wonderful people, and really just tell my story.  


Ultimately, I want a community of people just like me, that’s why I’ve created “The Busy Gamer's” - to connect others like me, vent together, game together, parent together.  


I hope this gives you an idea of what it’s like, and a peek into my mind.  


Until next time, 

TBG.




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